From Farm to Poems

What do field ditches full of overgrown milkweed, backyard clotheslines, room temperature milk, wild Dutch blitz games, a love of root cellars, unavoidably dusty barn lofts, or a supper table surrounded by cousins and neighbors’ kids as well as one’s own have in common?   Perhaps a frequent rural northern Indiana farm setting!

In her latest major publication, Shari Wagner (Poet Laureate of Indiana 2016-2017) has compiled an intentional book of poems entitled, The Farm Wife’s Almanac.  Yes, an almanac!  A handbook of sorts, published to contain information of general interest or on a pastime.  Through the perspective of a fictional farm woman, Shari shares and preserves many of her family stories, pays tribute to a beloved aunt and other persons who have been formative in her life, honors the role of strong farm women, and brings attention to the plight of the family farm.  In many ways, this book of poems allows Shari to pay homage to places and traditions dear to her in rural LaGrange County, an area where many of her relatives live and that she has visited since childhood. Through these poems, you can discover why the farm wife never locks her door, why she carries a buckeye in her purse, and why she directs visitors to the Skunk Woman of Howe. Hear tell of how the farm wife and her husband met through Walk-a-Mile, a Mennonite dating game. Or visit the Menno-Hof Museum and anxiously await the outcome of the historic Palm Sunday tornados!

The almanac has a circular theme, with numerous sections, including such entries as oddities and pastimes.  For those with a curiosity about life on a farm, those who have lived in rural parts, those with a yen for short stories, poetry or who simply want to learn about rural people and Mennonites, this book will certainly captivate you.  With approximately 116 pages and under $14, this book is perfect for short sessions, pondering, or longer reads. It can be read by section without a loss of context, as each poem is also a work of its own.  You will not want to miss this imaginative, yet, vividly realistic collection of poems!  What a great birthday gift or stocking stuffer for a friend or for you. 

Poems in this book have been published in the Christian Century or read by Garrison Keillor during the September 7, 2019 and July 2, 2010 installments of The Writer’s AlmanacThe Farm Wife’s Almanac is available through Cascadia Publishing or multiple online media outlets, and Shari has a handful in her car for sale.  For a great sampler, click one or both of the links below.

http://www.garrisonkeillor.com/radio/twa-the-writers-almanac-for-september-7-2019/

https://www.christiancentury.org/contributor/shari-wagner

Special thanks to Shari Wagner for graciously allowing me to interview her for this article.

FMC in Transition

TRANSITIONthe process or period of changing from one condition to another.  Examples of transitions include:

Accidents Having a baby Retirement
Buying a house Relocation Serious Illness
Changing jobs Getting Married Significant loss (of a person, pet or pastor)
Divorce Selling a house

Someone said, “This seems to be the season for church transitions.”  Within the Mennonite community, there are numerous churches and organizations going through leadership changes. From the executive director of the Mennonite Education Agency to the director of Mennonite Mission Network, people are stepping down.

Although such transitions can prove difficult, they may also have a positive side. Changes provide us with an opportunity to assess the direction our lives are taking and encourage us to grow and learn. To follow are some ideas that could make a transition process rewarding.

Accept that change is a normal part of life. People who have this attitude seem to have the easiest time moving through life transitions. 

Identify your values and life goals.  When people know who they are and what they want from life, they may see the change as just another life challenge. These people are willing to take responsibility for their actions and do not blame others for the changes that come along without warning.

Learn to identify and express your feelings. While it’s normal to attempt to push away feelings of fear and anxiety, you will move through them more quickly if you acknowledge them. These feelings will have less power over you if you face them and express them.

Focus on the payoffs. Think about what you have learned from other life transitions. Recall the stages you went through, and identify what you gained and learned from each experience. 

Don’t be in a rush. When your life is disrupted, it takes time to adjust to a new reality. 

Expect to feel uncomfortable. Transition is confusing and disorienting for most people. It is normal to feel insecure and anxious. These feelings are part of the process, but they can lessen with time.

Take good care of yourself. Transitions are stressful. Find something fun to do for yourself each day. Get plenty of rest, exercise, and eat well.

Build your support system. Seek the help of friends and family members, especially those who accept you without judgement and allow you to express your feelings. Consider the benefit of a mental health professional who can guide you through the transition process in a safe and supportive environment.

Acknowledge what you are leaving behind. This is the first step to acceptance. Before you can welcome the new, you must acknowledge and let go of the old.

Keep some things consistent. When you are experiencing a significant life change, it may help to keep your daily routines unchanged.

Take one step at a time. To regain a sense of control, find a simple task to manage now and break it down into small, specific steps. Write these down, keep them handy, and cross off each step as you accomplish it.

“There are no perfect people; only perfect moments.” Be sure to look for them!

Ref Paraphrased from: Richard B. Joelson, DSW, Psychotherapist, Author
https://richardbjoelsondsw.com/articles/managing-difficult-life-transitions/

Gathering in Groups – Gleaning Gifts

One of the things I love most about autumn is watching trees change colors.  To me, nothing is more beautiful than the sun shining on a tree decked out with fresh autumn leaves, transforming it into a brilliant splash of orange. Maybe it is because I have been working on this article about small groups in churches that I noted something I had never really observed before as I admired the autumn trees this year.  Although we enjoy a tree in its entirety, when you look closely, you notice that the tree is actually made up of “small groups” – clusters of leaves joining with other clumps of leaves. In some ways, that is not unlike small groups in churches.            

In fact, small groups serve many important functions in churches.  Ed Stetzer, a Professor at Wheaton College and contributing editor to Christianity Today suggests that small groups are a “pathway” for “birthing healthy community” within the church that can foster “spiritual growth that changes us individually and as a whole” and encourage “transformation in the communities outside the church walls.” 

Successful church groups can have many different forms and functions. You probably are familiar with the more traditional models of small groups that are common in many churches including First Mennonite–groups of people who meet once or twice a month to support one another, do service projects together, process church business, and socialize.  Andrea Krause has been part of a group like this for several years, maintaining her commitment to the group even though she now spends much of the year living in Germany. She explains, “What I like about our group is that we are all very different. I also value that our friendships have developed and deepened over time.  To me, as a German, relationships are something you tend to over time. You invest in them, and as you spend time together, you come to caring and friendship.  It’s really nice to go into a group where over time people have pieced together each other’s life story because they have listened to each other and spent time together. And ‘dropping back into’ my small group whenever I spend time in Indy feels wonderfully familiar and comforting, almost like I was never gone at all.”  

Kevin Rosner, who is a member of a men’s group at FMC that also fits into this traditional model of gatherings, confirms the value of the relationships that are built through the longevity of a group: “It has given us a close group of friends who feel very close due to our sharing of our life stories with each other.” Joe Longenecker, another member of an FMC men’s group, describes his experience with his group this way: “We try to meet every two weeks on Sunday evenings.  Most weeks, we just talk and share stories and concerns about our lives.  Usually, there is also conversation about ongoing church business.  About once a quarter, there is a more social event, like Frisbee golf at FMC. This is a good group for me.  It is easier to open up and share with a small group.  It is also good to have a group that is accepting of whatever we bring to the group.  I think this group helps the church by making the individual parts stronger.”   Bob Walson also participates in an FMC Men’s Group. He sees the purpose of his group as being “to share our joys, daily needs and daily care concerns, even concerns like how to fix mechanical/electrical problems at our individual homes or at FMC.”  

There is no doubt that groups like this play an important role in many people’s lives and contribute to the larger church in meaningful ways; yet this isn’t the only way to “do groups” in a church.  An alternative approach to small groups is for people to join a group out of interest in a particular topic and commit to making participation in the group a top priority for a short period of time (6 weeks to 6 months).  

An example of this type of group is the “Showing up for Racial Justice” (SURJ) group coordinated by Alison Schumacher.  Using SURJ resources, the 8 members of this group have committed to meeting monthly for 6 months to discuss race, privilege and power in the U.S. Marcy Major describes her experience in this group: “The information puts me more in tune with systemic racism. People in our group share their experiences and thoughts in a safe setting, and we learn from the materials and each other. I’m hoping that being a part of this group will assist me in making a positive difference.”

Transitional pastor Gary Martin initiated additional short-term groups focused on discerning spiritual gifts through the sharing of life stories.  In this model, groups of not more than 8 people are drawn together by interest in a common topic, and group members commit to meeting every other week for a short period of time.  The groups are facilitated by leaders who have gone through the experience, and a key component of this group experience is the sharing of life stories. At each meeting, two group members are given 20 minutes to share their story.  Martin observes, “Walls can be broken down just by telling those stories.”

The value of this alternative model of small groups in churches is evident in the responses of people who have participated in the two “life-story/gift discernment” groups that were formed at FMC.   Marcy Major explains, “Pastor Gary made the invitation to the congregation and we didn’t know who would be interested. Out of the 6 people in the group, I only knew 2 people.  I have gotten to know 6 people at FMC on a deeper level.  I now know some of their interests, passions, and gifts and perhaps I can connect them to others at FMC they may not know.  I can talk with them in a more genuine way, because I actually know what is meaningful or interesting to them.  I may tap them for their thoughts and opinions, because I know some of their story and background.”

Another participant, Alicia Amazon, describes her experiences this way: “I continue to participate in this small group because it has been life giving to me and I feel the spirit is working through this group.  I have loved getting to know my small group members on a deeper level. It has been an honor to hear life stories and share in identifying spiritual gifts. Participating in the group has given me a new sense of community and feeling connected to others in the church. It has affirmed my spiritual gifts and is encouraging me to use them in the church.”  

Anita Das affirms that it has been a “helpful process to look at individuals with greater depth than simply through social contact.”  She highlights that in addition to getting to know others better, you also get to know yourself better, stating, “I’m motivated to continue engaging in this process to discover what people’s perceptions are of me, versus my desires and own perception.  I am willing to listen to others and receive feedback and mutual support in gaining more self-awareness.”

Linda Dixon summarizes the potential value in these types of groups: “They have a lot of potential to encourage deeper sharing and more meaningful fellowship among church members and participants” and can ultimately be used “to serve our church and to glorify God.”  

Participants in both the traditional model of groups and this alternative format clearly benefit from being part of a small group, and both models are beneficial to the church as well.  It is important to remember that both models can exist simultaneously within a congregation. Gary Martin encourages existing groups to keep doing what they are doing, saying “If you like your group, keep going!”  At the same time, he encourages people to consider participating in one of the special topic, short-term groups when a theme comes up that captures their attention. Marcy Major concurs: “I have been in different small groups over my 22 years at FMC Indianapolis. I understand the different ways small groups can be viewed. Some people switch groups every couple of years so they can get to know a different group of people in a deeper way. Some people wouldn’t imagine changing their small group because of the comfort level they have grown into. I would argue that all FMC participants would benefit from joining a small group of 6 to 8 people for a short duration – and if they wanted to continue meeting in their current small group they could still do that, too.”

So, whether it is participating in a traditional group or in a short-term, topic-focused group, gathering in small groups contributes greatly to the well-being of a church community.  Not all of the branches of leaves on a tree are identical, and not all groups in a church need to be the same either. Returning to the metaphor I began with, if the church is like a tree and a small group is like the different clusters of leaves, all of the groups work together, supported by strong roots, to create the life-giving splendor that is Christ’s church.

Editorial

MennoExpressions has been reflecting the thoughts of Indy’s Mennonite community for 32 years, hearing from those who have connections to either First Mennonite Church or Shalom Mennonite.  We’ve been fortunate to have wonderful editors in that time.  

Founder, Erv Boschmann, started us off, and Shari Wagner took over once he took a step back.  After Shari’s tenure we had Robin Jones, Dean Habegger and then, most recently, Alison Schumacher.  Grace Rhine and Howard Palmatier stepped in for several short terms to tide us over.  

Each Editor brought unique flavor to the process, which allowed us to explore new ideas and consider changing technologies.  The dedication of all our editors has kept many of us on the creative board year after year.

The board meets 3-4 times a year for about 90 minutes.  A lot of brainstorming and idea generation bounces off the walls until we are able to mold what we’ve verbally thrown out in the space into themes that speak to us; themes that we believe would carry meaning for all of you.  Then we talk about sources…potential writers… asking: Who would have an experience that might fit into this theme? Whose voice have we been missing in past issues? What artwork would express the ideas we are discussing?  

It’s invigorating as an issue of MennoExpressions begins to take shape.  

This issue features the theme of Gleaning and Gathering.  The concepts fit in with FMC’s study of Ruth as well as the notion of gaining insight to the way we work and function.  It focuses on First Mennonite’s present transition process – something Shalom did a short while back.  

Over time we’ve delved into difficult subject matter as well as the lighter side.  We’ve been open to new ideas. We’ve asked for feedback and heard both negative and positive responses.  Looking back on the issues over the years, we see a history of Mennonites in Indianapolis since 1987. We aren’t ready to pack up and leave Menno Expressions behind just yet.

This issue is being published without a named editor. We are still looking for someone who would have an interest in filling that slot and are open to creative ways to make that happen.  It’s hard to fill the shoes of Alison Schumacher, we know, but if you are so led, please talk to us. Chat with a board member or ask Alison, Shari or Erv about their experiences. Perhaps this is the time for one of you to Glean and Gather in a new opportunity.

Moving On (spring issue of MennoExpressions)

Last July, inspiration struck during a routine editorial board meeting and we decided all at once on four themes for the whole year. Normally we figure out one, maybe two. But four? We were on a roll! There was an underlying idea of Flow to it, with the summer issue as What We Keep, fall Intersection, winter Together, and spring, Moving On. This final one we felt was appropriate to both to honor the high school graduates in a special issue, as well as nod to stages we each move through as we navigate life.

And here we are. FMC is certainly in a “moving on” phase, whether we want to be or not. Our entire pastoral team has moved on, or is in the process of doing so. We as a church are in a transition that we haven’t anticipated; what are we moving towards? What are we moving away from?

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